Q27: DOES THE BIBLE ONLY PROVIDE SPECS FOR A GODLY WIFE? WHAT ABOUT THE HUSBAND? Does A Married Woman As Written In The Bible Given The Freedom of Choice?

Does the Bible only provide specs for a Godly wife? What about the husband? Does a woman as written in the Bible given the freedom of choice?

-- Engr. Arnel Amador
   Oxnard, California, USA 

Lope Columna: If there is a Godly wife, there must be a Godly husband. Here are the major specs for a Godly husband: 

• Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, (Eph 5:25-26 KJV).

The above specs is the ideal and the ultimate responsibility of the Godly husband. The very high quality of Christ's love to the Church is the ultimate goal and standard. Unfortunately, this verse is commonly misunderstood by many Churches and Pastors as to suggest to the husbands to submit to the wiles and wishes of their wives. This opens the temptation for the wives to domineer the husband. The True Church never domineers Christ.

Ephesians 5:25-26 means that husbands must love their wives according to the way that Christ loves the Church. Christ never submits to every wile and wish of His Church. The right way for a husband to love his wife is to sanctify her, and to cleanse her with the words of God, as what Christ is doing with His Church -- to purify Her. This means that the husband should guide, or grants her wife's wishes to salvation, not to her worldly wishes and desires.

• We truly love God only when we obey him as we should, and then we know that we belong to him. If we say we are his, we must follow the example of Christ.  (1John 2:5-6 CEV)

DOES A WOMAN AS WRITTEN IN THE BIBLE GIVEN THE FREEDOM OF CHOICE?
Once a woman is married to a man, she has no choice but to submit to the authority of her husband. If her husband is getting off-track, the wife should not correct the husband, but just kept silent and pray to God about the problem.

• Wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, so that if any do not obey the Word, they may also be won without the Word by the conduct of the wives, having witnessed your chaste behavior in the fear of God.  (1Pet 3:1-2 MKJV)

Of course, the wife could give her ideas and suggestions to the husband, in a respectful way, not in a confrontational way. But once the husband made the final decision, the wife must accept and respect the decision, whether she likes it or not. Never contradicts or rebels against the husband's final decision. 

Of course, if the husband is doing or planning something that is against the Laws of God, the wife should follow God instead of the husband. But never fight your husband. Put everything in God's hands.

Lope Columna: 1 Timothy 5:8 gives another specs of a Godly husband: To be the Bread-Provider of the Family.

• But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially his family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel. (1Ti 5:8 MKJV)

IN CONCLUSION: The husband must live and treat his wife according to the teachings and knowledge of the Creator God, NOT according to the worldly and man-made ideas and concepts of marriage and family. 

• You husbands, in like manner, live with your wives according to (God's) knowledge, giving honor to the woman, as to the weaker vessel, as being also joint heirs of the grace of life; that your prayers may not be hindered.  (1Pe 3:7 HNV)

If a husband, or a wife for that matter, will listen to man's worldly concepts of marriage, instead of listening to God's message, then we can expect more divorce, broken homes, delinquent children, same-sex marriages, and all sorts of perverted marriage relationships and immorality.

Arnel Amador: Thanks Lope.

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