Q55: THE CHURCHES ARE MISLED ABOUT THE TRUE MEANING OF FORNICATION. KNOW THE BIBLE'S TRUE DEFINITION OF FORNICATION. "If He Does Not Want Marriage, I'm Not Risking My Eternity. No More Fornicating."

Hello, Pastor Lope Columna, 

I have always had a sense of God in me through out my youthful life, and about 6 months ago, I really opened my eyes to the world's truths as well as all the ignorance in this world and I can't truly say we have all been strongly deceived.  It's really upsetting.  I've been living a true as possible, but living with my own desires being fulfilled.  I realized I needed to get in tune with the real God, the real Jesus. So I figured I'd call a priest from the catholic church to speak with, and when we met, we had a great conversation. This is what I have to tell you.

I am 22 years old, and I have been living with a man for 4 years now, we're not married.  I wanted marriage but he doesn't.  We've been a family basically since day one,  we had a baby 18 months ago. So here's my predicament, and it's a really a tough one for me,  which I talked with the priest about and he said marriage isn't necessary because having a child is like having a ceremony itself, which at the time sounded great coming from a priest. But now a month or so has passed and I have been learning Gods words. The more I read the scriptures the more I can see things clearly. And without being 1 as a whole your adding up sin, even though you think your right. Do you understand what I am meaning?

I pray every night for my family and for God to shine in us, but my boyfriend don't want nothing to do or know about God, and I have a really strong feeling about God, and it gets stronger everyday.  He respects my choice in going to church, but I don't think he'll like what I have to say to him now,  that is, if he doesn't want marriage, I'm not risking my eternity. No more fornicating.  I was scared at first that he will leave me, and which he very may will, but I feel I'll be able to get through it no matter what happens. 

Anyway, the reason I'm emailing you is because I don't trust in things too much, unless its very true sounding.  Even the church I've been going to, I have heard them say a couple things that don't sound right... so its making me see that what if this church is a false one?
 
I just want to be righteous, I love to love, I'm just sick of all the lying and deceiving this world has taught me, and the only truth I have really found to be the truths of life is the bible.  It's sad because I want everyone to wake up and pay attention but they all like to believe in there own personal Jesus, which is so wrong.  I feel really sad about this chance I have with my spouse, but I am going forth to save myself, and whether he's up with it or not, I'll get through it. 

Please help me. I've read a lot of your pages this morning, and I found them very truthful and knowledgeable. And I am a seeker of truth. I hope you send back knowledge directly relating to my positions.  Thank you. 

-- Ms. AMANDA
      Canada

Thanks for your email, Amanda. The following are my comments and answers to your questions. I hope that these help you. If you have further questions, just continue to ask me. 

God Be With You, 

Lope Columna

 

Q1. ...my boyfriend don't want nothing to do or know about God, and I have a really strong feeling about God, and it gets stronger everyday.  He respects my choice in going to church...  I was scared at first that he will leave me, and which he very may will, but I feel I'll be able to get through it no matter what happens.
A1. Never leave your boyfriend/husband, as long as he is willing to live with you. Yet, if he go away, let him do it. The following Scriptures will explain further.

• Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband, and he is willing to live with her, she must not leave her husband.  (1Co 7:13)

• For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife... Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. (1Co 7:14)

• But if the unbeliever leaves, let him leave. A brother or a sister is not bound in such cases. God has called you to peace.  (1Co 7:15)

• For you, wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband? (1Co 7:16)

Q2. "...IF HE DOESN'T WANT MARRIAGE, I'M NOT RISKING MY ETERNITY. NO MORE FORNICATING."
A2. YOU ARE NOT FORNICATING if you live faithfully with your husband/boyfriend. Your Boyfriend is already your husband, and you are his wife. The guilt you may be experiencing is because of the wrong teaching of the Churches about the subject of Fornication. Almost all Churches teach that a couple living together (live-in) without legal marriage is already committing fornication. But the Bible does not teach this doctrine. 

The definition  of FORNICATION today is man-made, not according to God's definition.

FORNICATION, according to the Bible is SEXUAL IMMORALITY, including ADULTERY, HOMOSEXUALITY, etc. It is not the absence of legal marriage documents. Married couples that are complete with legal documents and wedding ceremonial traditions can still commit Fornication. For more information this important topic of Fornication, please go to, or click: WHAT DOES IT MEAN, FORNICATION? WHAT DO YOU MEAN, PORNOGRAPHY?

SEXUAL PURITY: The MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR IN THE MARRIAGE AND FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS

What is very important in the husband-and-wive relationship, according to God's standards, is the PURITY of their Marriage and Family relationships. This is why ADULTERY is a great sin in marriage. Adultery means "adulterated" or impure. As a verb, to adulterate means to corrupt, debase, or make impure by adding a foreign substance.

SEXUAL INTERCOURSE IS THE OFFICIAL ACT AND RECOGNITION OF MARRIAGE, AS THE HUSBAND AND WIFE UNITED INTO ONE FLESH

Sexual Intercourse is also the Binding of the Marriage Covenant Between a Man and a Virgin Woman. They became Husband and Wife (Deuteronomy 22:28-29).

• If a Man finds a Girl, A VIRGIN NOT ENGAGED, and lays hold on her, and lies with her, and they are found, then the man who lay with her shall give to the Girl's Father 50 shekels of silver, and SHE SHALL BE HIS WIFE. Because he has humbled her, he may not put her away all his days. (Deu 22:28-29 MKJV)

All the documents and wedding ceremonies are just peripherals. They may, or may not be present.
The human pair differed from the animal pairs, such that after the sawing of Eve, God brought them together again. And their sexual union made them one again, as before. This passage quoted by Christ as the divine institution of marriage (Matthew 19:4-5,  Ephesians 5:28).

THE CASE OF ISAAC AND REBECCA

• Rebekah looked up, and when she saw Isaac, she got down from her camel and asked the servant, "Who is that man in the field coming to meet us?" The servant answered, "It is my master." So she took her veil and covered herself.  (Gen 24:64-65)

• And Isaac brought her into the tent of his Mother Sarah and took Rebekah to be his Wife. Isaac loved her, and he was comforted...  (Gen 24:67)

...and Isaac took Rebekah, and she became his Wife; This means that Rebekah became the legal wife of Isaac when they have sexual intercourse; that is, their Marriage was consummated. We should notice that there was no Dating, no Engagement, and no man-made Legalities involved here. And there was NO FORNICATION committed here.

NOTE: Bible verses used in this article is based on the Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB). If not, the quoted translation is indicated.

-- LOPE COLUMNA --

The BIBLE EXPLAINER AND REVELATOR